Wow, just typing that Title is depressing. Depressing in the sense that I am 48 (this week in fact) and the amount of time wasted, feeling gross and disgusted with myself.........is half my life. (And when I did look great.........I was too young to know it!!!!)
So I have to ask myself..........why have I treated myself so shabbily. Why have I settled for a lesser verson of me?. Why am I afraid to shine?? Why am I so comfortable with being uncomfortable?
I can guess at the answers for some of these questions. Hopefully, as more information unfolds in my mind, with the Lord's help, I can deal with the negatives in my life.
I'm watching Bob Greene and Oprah.............on what I'm guessing is a re-run............but the information is still valid. "I've got to move to improve!!!" needs to be my new motto. I need to change my life one step, one bite at a time. I can ALWAYS find an excuse to not move..........but I need to take control and create more choices in my life!
Sunday, June 15, 2008
Thursday, June 12, 2008
Headline: "Mom Ruins Boys Life"
What does a 15 year old boy want? A 15 year old girl. (or 16, or 17 or whatever he can get his hands on!!!) What does this old Mom want? A break from hormonal boys!!!!!! How long has this been my lot in life???? Well, my oldest son is almost 24 and he was followed by three more boys. Let's just say..........I'm running out of energy! The energy needed to keep up with a 15 year old bundle of testosterone!!!! His one goal in life is to "kiss the girl". My one goal these days is to keep that from happening.
So, to acheive MY goal............I have to venture into my secret bag of mom tricks. Too bad this particular 15 year old is so smart. He's actually figured a few of them out already. No matter......the creativity of this mom in my stealth activities so far has seen no end.
Lately, my bag is filled with spies in the form of little tattletale sisters and MANY phone calls with the "other" mother. (Who is this case is as crazy and persistant as me and please don't tell our kids that we have WAY too many laughs while conducting our investigations!!!) We compare stories (emphasis on the word "stories" here), discuss discipline and basically conspire to "ruin" our children's lives!!!
Some might wonder why I care about a little kiss........maybe thinking I should mind my own business and let my son make his own decisions. Let me just set those people straight...........I've watched teenage boys make decisions..........and it is NOT pretty!!!!! Why am I so adamant? I have seen two of my sons become spiritually and emotionally strong men while keeping themselves morally clean and serving others for 2 years on a mission for our church. (Number three will be leaving soon) Only after arriving home does their thoughts turn back to their own goals and dreams for their future. This is when they have the skills to make life altering decisions that can fill their lives with true happiness and joy. I want no less for son number four..............and when he's old enough, he WILL thank me. Hopefully that will be sometime before he gets off the plane, having just finished his two years of service.
So, to acheive MY goal............I have to venture into my secret bag of mom tricks. Too bad this particular 15 year old is so smart. He's actually figured a few of them out already. No matter......the creativity of this mom in my stealth activities so far has seen no end.
Lately, my bag is filled with spies in the form of little tattletale sisters and MANY phone calls with the "other" mother. (Who is this case is as crazy and persistant as me and please don't tell our kids that we have WAY too many laughs while conducting our investigations!!!) We compare stories (emphasis on the word "stories" here), discuss discipline and basically conspire to "ruin" our children's lives!!!
Some might wonder why I care about a little kiss........maybe thinking I should mind my own business and let my son make his own decisions. Let me just set those people straight...........I've watched teenage boys make decisions..........and it is NOT pretty!!!!! Why am I so adamant? I have seen two of my sons become spiritually and emotionally strong men while keeping themselves morally clean and serving others for 2 years on a mission for our church. (Number three will be leaving soon) Only after arriving home does their thoughts turn back to their own goals and dreams for their future. This is when they have the skills to make life altering decisions that can fill their lives with true happiness and joy. I want no less for son number four..............and when he's old enough, he WILL thank me. Hopefully that will be sometime before he gets off the plane, having just finished his two years of service.
Wednesday, September 5, 2007
Ha Ha.......I'm "Wasting" My Time
At some point, my oldest son decided he was now "the boss of me". He's 23 and thinks that he can now tell ME what to do. (or not do) For some reason, he's got it in his head that I am "over the hill" at 47. I try to tell my kids that being 47 (or their father being 49) doesn't mean we've already got one foot in the grave. But they just look at us, eyes filled with pity, feeling sorry that we're in the throes of dementia and we have no clue how close we are to dying of old age! I didn't realize that dementia was so common in people in their 40's. The looks on my kid's faces assure me it is.
I've seen this coming. The increasing looks of disgust on their faces when I DARE to make a joke, have an opinion, sing to the radio or Heaven Forbid.....talk to their friends. I just thought I could fake being young enough, cool enough, or fun enough to hold off their scorn until I was at least in my 60's. But no, that is not the case. There are so many things that are not in their catalog of "Proper Parent Behaviors & Activities", that one would think that I would have a plethora of free time. Sadly, this is not the case. I've still got 3 at home. So, my job is not finished yet.
So, back to my oldest........I probably shouldn't mention his name.........so I'll just refer to him as "Frandon" for anonymity. He enjoys spending time on Facebook. It's like a blog I guess, where you post pictures, silly commentaries or whatever you choose to share. You have a network of people that you have allowed to join as one of your "Friends". He was showing me different pictures and funny entries from others and it peaked my interest. So I told him I would have a Facebook account and we could "talk" to eachother and keep in touch when he was away at college. Well I was obviously WAY outta line on that suggestion! He was MORTIFIED at the thought of any of his friends seeing me WASTE my time with such frivolity. He informed me that there is NO WAY that he would EVER welcome me into his site and that I would NEVER be one of his "Friends". WHAT WOULD HIS REAL FRIENDS THINK? Oh my gosh!! How embarrassing for them to see his mom spending her time that way!! Well I'm gonna go out on a limb and say that Facebook probably isn't on the "Proper Parent Behaviors & Activities" list.
Of course, this now brings out what some might call my "mean streak". I think I'll just call it my "Mom Streak". Since he has protested my appearance on his site...............I MUST construct a plan to actually get him to accept me as one of his "Friends". I am currently devising a way to do this and will consider it a well deserved victory when I finally pull this off and eventually reveal my true identity!! Do you think I'll get any credit from him when that happens? No. I will see a disgusted look on his face and a sarcastic comment will follow. All this will be his attempt to show me that I am WASTING my time and that my efforts were pointless. But I will not agree. I will know that I HAVE WON!!!! You know what...........maybe I DO have too much time on my hands!!!
I've seen this coming. The increasing looks of disgust on their faces when I DARE to make a joke, have an opinion, sing to the radio or Heaven Forbid.....talk to their friends. I just thought I could fake being young enough, cool enough, or fun enough to hold off their scorn until I was at least in my 60's. But no, that is not the case. There are so many things that are not in their catalog of "Proper Parent Behaviors & Activities", that one would think that I would have a plethora of free time. Sadly, this is not the case. I've still got 3 at home. So, my job is not finished yet.
So, back to my oldest........I probably shouldn't mention his name.........so I'll just refer to him as "Frandon" for anonymity. He enjoys spending time on Facebook. It's like a blog I guess, where you post pictures, silly commentaries or whatever you choose to share. You have a network of people that you have allowed to join as one of your "Friends". He was showing me different pictures and funny entries from others and it peaked my interest. So I told him I would have a Facebook account and we could "talk" to eachother and keep in touch when he was away at college. Well I was obviously WAY outta line on that suggestion! He was MORTIFIED at the thought of any of his friends seeing me WASTE my time with such frivolity. He informed me that there is NO WAY that he would EVER welcome me into his site and that I would NEVER be one of his "Friends". WHAT WOULD HIS REAL FRIENDS THINK? Oh my gosh!! How embarrassing for them to see his mom spending her time that way!! Well I'm gonna go out on a limb and say that Facebook probably isn't on the "Proper Parent Behaviors & Activities" list.
Of course, this now brings out what some might call my "mean streak". I think I'll just call it my "Mom Streak". Since he has protested my appearance on his site...............I MUST construct a plan to actually get him to accept me as one of his "Friends". I am currently devising a way to do this and will consider it a well deserved victory when I finally pull this off and eventually reveal my true identity!! Do you think I'll get any credit from him when that happens? No. I will see a disgusted look on his face and a sarcastic comment will follow. All this will be his attempt to show me that I am WASTING my time and that my efforts were pointless. But I will not agree. I will know that I HAVE WON!!!! You know what...........maybe I DO have too much time on my hands!!!
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